Showing posts with label happiness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label happiness. Show all posts

Wednesday, March 20, 2024

Restlessness: A Cosmic Dance!

                                                                                

                                                                                



The other day, I happened to be present at a get together. The elites and all the big names were present there. The party was in full swing, with people chattering away. Amidst roars of laughter, clinking of glasses, and seemingly happy demeanors there was something amiss. I was sitting at one corner enjoying my humble lemonade observing all the frivolities of the evening.

Everything appeared to be perfect! It reckoned to me that each face present there had a story to tell. In one room, there were several stories waiting to unfold. I noticed people who were happily intermingling with each other would suddenly become quiet and lost when left alone even for a minute. It was a contrasting situation. It made me wonder how a  person who was so happy and outgoing a few minutes ago was suddenly so somber? What was it? 

The following day, on my way to work; I again started observing people on the road. Each one seemed to be in their own frenzy. Rushing to get somewhere! The urgency of being somewhere and doing something was all left in their purpose of “being”. I was also one of them. But, this thought kept lingering with me the entire day. I was looking for answers to questions I  was not even sure of. 

On Saturdays, I usually visit a temple. The temple was bustling with devotees. The priest was chanting the mantras. People standing with folded hands waiting impatiently for the priest to finish. Husbands nudging at their wives to leave early. Children fidgeting endlessly waiting for the ordeal to end so that they could play. Again, I witnessed the same “hurriedness.”

At one corner of the temple, was a small shack. There lived an old hermit. I thought of paying a visit to him. I knew it was my mind urging me to see if the hermit who had renounced the world also had the same kind of restlessness which I was observing from the past couple of days. I walked toward his shack. To my delight, he was sitting on the footsteps doing his rounds of rosary.  I did not want to disturb him nor did I want him to see me. Therefore, I stood behind the large peepal tree watching him. His fingers were mechanically racing through rosary beads while he gave a fleeting glance towards the commotion happening around him. He too seemed to be in a hurry to finish his rounds of “japas”. Again, the same “hurriedness” but of a different kind.

I left the “place of answers” with a confused as well as an intrigued mind. I realized the rich, the common man, the priest, and the hermit all had one thing in common. It was the underlying simmering restlessness. I could understand and relate to the common man’s woes but not that of the rich and the hermit. One had everything to make his life comfortable while the other was devoid of any desires. 

That night, I stood at my window gazing at the vast expanse of the sky. It looked so serene and quiet. But was it really so? It was a cosmic illusion and deception. Perhaps, here too the ‘maya’ was at its play. Its tranquility was a cosmic illusion or if I may call it a cosmic deception only to divulge a camouflaged cosmic mayhem later. The space was also buzzing with endless cosmic activities. The “cosmic restlessness” pervades the entire universe.

This left me with one question which was perhaps also an answer to the question to which I  have been seeking an answer for years.  The ultimate goal of everyone is to attain “moksha” or salvation from the cycle of birth and death including the universe. What does the death or termination of the cycle of birth and death mean? It supposedly means attainment of ultimate peace. A respite from the “chaotic hurriedness and restlessness.’ 

I am no authority on the subject. I cannot vouch for others but I came to understand that till you are part of this “hustle and bustle” there is no escape from the mundanity of it. The pursuit of peace and spirituality by a hermit also causes the same kind of restlessness as the rich man trying to build his empire because both of them are pursuing their respective goals. The nature of goals might be different. Even the journey may not be the same. But, the very fact that one is trying to accomplish something in itself instills a cacophony of emotions, and when emotions come into play there is little scope left for perpetual peace.

I realized that most of the pain that we inflict upon us is because we are desperately trying to silence the inherent hurriedness and restlessness of our being. Let go of that desperation. We cannot stop it nor can we control it. But, if we learn to accept it, then I feel most of our miseries will not seem miserable at all!  

I kept gazing at the sky trying to fathom the perplexities of the magnificent creation. A thought tiptoed silently into my mind. It said, “Dear, do you really want to experience moksha? I answered with the same quietness “yes”, It whispered, “control all your emotions such that nothing perplexes you anymore. Just “be” in the state of “being” 

Remember, you are part of the great cosmic dance. Dance till it lasts!  

I sighed deeply and  walked back to the room remembering the great saying in the Bhagwat Geeta, “कर्मण्येवाधिकारस्ते मा फलेषु कदाचन। मा कर्मफलहेतुर्भूर्मा ते सङ्गोऽस्त्वकर्मणि.”  Today, I had a different interpretation of this shloka. I felt it told me to be attached to everything around me as it was my cosmic duty and at the same time learn to be detached from it all. Could attachment and detachment co-exist? Maybe, they could!

Friday, June 23, 2023

Mastering the Art of Dealing with Difficult People

Dealing with difficult people is both challenging and exhausting, but it's an inexorable part of life. Toxic people can exist anywhere. You may have to face a difficult situation with a family member, an acquaintance, or a coworker. The key is to learn how to maneuver these difficult encounters with dignity and grace. In this article, we will delve into practical strategies for tackling difficult people and cultivating more positive and constructive relationships.

  1. Have Emotional Control: A level-headed approach is required when dealing with difficult individuals. It's imperative to manage and maintain your emotions. At any point avoid impulsive reactions to their provocations. When the situation becomes really toxic, first take a deep breath, pause, and stay calm. Instead of reacting it is always better to respond to the situation. This really helps in preventing further escalation of conflicts.

  2. Be Understanding and Empathetic: Difficult people are difficult because of their lack of understanding. In some cases they are not even empathetic to others. Here, empathy emerges as a powerful tool to deal with difficult people. It always helps to put ourselves in their shoes and perceive situations from their perspective. Try to fathom the underlying frustrations or motivations. This approach will foster a more understanding environment. We have to remember that difficult people might be facing their own insecurities and challenges. Therefore, empathy and compassion can go a long way in diffusing tense situations.

  3. Select Your Battles Wisely: It's not necessary or rather mandatory to pursue every confrontation with a difficult person. It's always better to evaluate the issue at hand and decide whether it's worth your time and energy. Most of the time, it's more fruitful to let small disagreements or arguments slide to have a harmonious environment. Focus more on things that really matter. Choosing your battles prudently can protect you from unnecessary stress, drama and arguments.

  4. Set Boundaries and Have Effective Communications: Establishing clear boundaries is crucial when dealing with difficult people. It is really important to clearly communicate your expectations to them and let them know which attitude is unacceptable. Be assertive in expressing yourself and maintain a firm respectful stance. Effective communication can mitigate misunderstandings and initiate more constructive interactions.

  5. Seek Compromise: At times, finding common ground can be helpful. Sometimes, shared goals or interests may serve as a foundation for healthy collaboration. By working on mutual understanding and benefits, a great rapport can be established. This may definitely help toward resolving conflicts. Developing a positive and collaborative relationship requires a dignified compromise based on willingness to find a middle path.

  6. Be a good listener: Active listening is very important when dealing with a difficult person. It involves attentively listening and understanding the other person's perspective. A positive body language like maintaining eye contact, nodding, showing genuine interest in the conversation, and providing verbal cues helps calm the person as well as the situation. Always respond with dignity, maintaining a constructive and respectful demeanor. At all cost avoid destructive, defensive or offensive behavior. Foster an open dialogue and try to resolve the issue.

Dealing with difficult people is a social art that needs a tremendous amount of patience, self-control, compassion, and empathy. By implementing these little steps, you can effectively transform challenging circumstances into opportunities for personal development and better relationships. Emotional Intelligence,effective communication, and a desire to strike a common ground are essential for negotiating the intricacies of human interaction.


                                                                             

Saturday, November 26, 2011

9th December............

9th December..........

                                       
                                                                                   
                                                                                   
9th December....
Yes, it was the date
Chosen for me to be separated from Divinity,
To steadily grow, see, and believe
In the law, religion, and materiality.

I grew unhappy with all that surrounded me
Perplexed and depressed by the hypocrisies present
In varied forms of relationships and spirituality.
My physical body was exposed to pain, fear, and tears.
The endless toil to make a mark in this world
Resulted in remorseful tears.

I realized I was just existing but not living
With a fractured soul
And a tarnished heart
I looked up to the creator
And pleaded,
“I seek release, please help me restore”

Soon, I was filled with light
That pierced the darkness of my soul
It filled my body, heart, and mind
With highest reflections of  
The forgotten Divinity.

Now, I know
This 9th December
I will be free, blessed soul

As I can feel
The divine light, love, and inspiration
Cascading toward me.
To help me seek the lost soul
That lies embedded within me.

Yes, this December
My dream, to be simply free
Is going to be a reality
Because the healer and restorer of my soul
Promised me so!
From then on
I will not be simply existing
But living a soulful life
Enriched and blessed
By my creator’s beneficent grace!



                               

Friday, November 25, 2011

Life Is A Butterfly.......



                                                                      


             This is dedicated to one of my friends who reminded me it was time to shed my cocoon.



Reminders do come from the Universe
And this time it is through a dear friend
Who stays miles across
But always comes as a sweet messenger
To remind that there is more to this world
That our bare eyes can meet.

Life appeared as the caterpillar
That was ready to believe that it was the end of the world
But then little did it know
That its creator had another plans
It was destined to be the butterfly
All set to shed its cocoon
And step into the beautiful garden of life.

After spending days in serious introspection
I have come to realize that
Life is all about caterpillars and butterflies,
When you think that life is the ugliest
There springs a moment which makes it look the prettiest.

Happiness fleets and so does a butterfly
The more you chase them both
Farther are they from your grasp
So, just stop this mad chase
And relax
For you will be surprised
That when you least expected it
The butterfly with its wings of happiness
May alight upon you!


                                                                         

Celebrating Holi: A Festival of Colors, Unity, and Renewal

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